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{A Time to Kill} But God.

Written By: Michelle Nehrig

After sharing part of my testimony recently, the listener suggested that my passion is redeeming stories.
I love to hear a story of how God has moved in someone’s life. I have a burning desire to share the story of how God has shown up and shown out in my life in miraculous ways. Seeing how God kills old habits and strongholds in the lives of His followers ignites something within me.
And this would make sense. After all, He is still writing my redeeming story.
I am a single mother with two amazing kids, by two different dads. I was never married to either of their dads. Long before I had children, I was married and divorced. By society’s standards, I am a failure.
But God.
But God doesn’t call the qualified, He qualifies the called.
But God doesn’t look at the outside of man. He looks at the heart.
Let’s talk about what God is killing in me.
He is killing the desire to sin.
He is slaying my selfishness.
He is murdering my desire for worldly possessions.
He is abolishing my need for monetary gain.
The enemy wants to remind me of my past. He wants to remind me of all of the wrong that I’ve done.
God wants to kill Satan’s lies with His truth. His truth which states that I am loved. I am worthy. I am a child of the King. I am valued in His Kingdom.
The enemy wants to remind me of the bad choices I’ve made.
God wants to kill the enemy’s reminders; instead reminding me of the words in 2 Corinthians 5:17, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”
The enemy wants to tell me that, not only have I made mistakes, but I am ONE BIG mistake.
God tells me in Romans 8:28, “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” So that we know, in God, nothing is an accident or a mistake.
More often than not, it is not pleasant to talk about killing or things being killed. Unless we are talking about the bad habits and sinful ways of our flesh. When these are the discussion at hand, then it is encouraged to talk about the ways God is killing these traits in us.
I press on with my prayers for more patience and more love and more kindness and more encouragement toward others. I push forward because I know this is not all there is for me. And it’s not all there is for you, either. God has more. He is still writing our redeeming stories. We just have to give Him the pen and stay the course. His word is the last word. I know it will be a good one.
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Michelle Nehrig
Michelle is a daughter of the King of Kings. She loves Jesus, her children, coffee, and books.
Michelle is grateful for the grace that is heaped upon her daily by her heavenly Daddy. She is still learning how to accept it for the gift that it is. You can find her thoughts, life-lessons, and sometimes comical adventures with her animals at: beauty in between. Her life verse is Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him and he will make your paths straight.” This is something she is still learning.
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{A Time to Plant} Daily

Written By: Michelle Nehrig
Daily I plant.
Daily I labor.
Daily I water.
Daily I feed.
Daily I tend.
Daily I weed.
Daily I pray.
You might read these statements and think they are all related to gardening. Rather, when I say that daily I plant, I toil, I water, I feed, I tend, I weed, and I pray, I mean these are all actions I take with my children in raising them to be like Jesus.
However, gardening can be a great metaphor for raising children.
Everyday, I plant seeds of faithfulness, love, patience, self-control, gentleness, joy, goodness, peace, and kindness into my children. There are also those days when those fruits don’t come and, instead I plant anger, self-righteousness, impatience, and a whole host of other ungodly fruits.
Everyday, I can choose to plant seeds of encouragement or seeds of despair.
When I am at my wits end, and my children can tell it, and I choose to slow down and respond in love; I am planting love and self-control.
When I am tired from a long day of teaching other children the fruits of the spirit and my children behave as though they’ve lost their ever lovin’ minds, and I choose patience instead of losing my temper; I am planting gentleness and patience.
When I spend time reading God’s Word to them, I am feeding their faith. I am watering the seeds of faithfulness planted.
When we talk about choices their friends have made and the natural consequences that have come from those choices, I am weeding the worldly influences.
When one of my children is in unfamiliar territory and I take the time to pray with and for them, I am laboring alongside them. We walk out the situation together.
Just like in gardening, there is a time for planting and a time for reaping. Ecclesiastes 3:1-3 tells us, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted.”
This is our planting time in our children. This is our time to sow what we want to them to reap in the harvest.
This is the time of hard work.
This is the time of toiling over our children and their lives.
This is the time to water and feed THEIR faith instead of OUR fears. If I am living in a constant state of fear that something will happen to one of my children, I cannot fully feed their faith in a loving God.
There will come a time when what we have planted will be plucked up. This may come when our children are off on their own and they recall what has been sown into them.
Hopefully, through the course of things, we will see some of the seeds we’ve planted being harvested. This may come when a child faces a difficult decision to follow peer pressure or to stay true to what she has been taught. It may come when he chooses not to take the easy way and plagiarize an article, instead, doing the tough research to make his case. Throughout the long and weary days, we must remember, in parenting, when our children are small and still at home with us, this is our time to plant.
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Michelle Nehrig
Michelle is a daughter of the King of Kings. She loves Jesus, her children, coffee, and books.
Michelle is grateful for the grace that is heaped upon her daily by her heavenly Daddy. She is still learning how to accept it for the gift that it is. You can find her thoughts, life-lessons, and sometimes comical adventures with her animals at: beauty in between. Her life verse is Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him and he will make your paths straight.” This is something she is still learning.
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{A Time to Plant} He Blesses the Work of Your Hands

Written By: Christina Rich

Remember as a kid when you plucked dandelions from the grass and blew on the fluff, and then watched the individual white flakes catch the wind and fly away? Did you consider where the seeds might land and produce fruit? I know for me, as a kid, I didn’t even realize those fun weeds God created for the children’s enjoyment, produced more of themselves in mass quantity.

Having been in ministry one way or another for over twenty years, I’ve planted seeds and never seen them grow. I’ve tended plants produced from seeds another planted, and I’ve witnessed the harvesting of other seeds.

Take heart, know that all your planting and tending seeds is not done in vain. Whether you are in front of an audience of one or an auditorium of thousands, now that God places people in your path for an eternal purpose, some for a minute moment, some for a season, and others for a lifetime. That purpose may be to offer a silent prayer, give a kind word, offer them a warm meal, hold their hand, or give them a message from the Lord.

We should be like a child taking delight in blowing on the dandelion when it comes to planting seeds. I know I long to be more like a child and enjoy the labor God places in front of me. His word says in Deuteronomy 28:12 that He shall open to you His good treasury, the heavens to give rain of your land in its season and to bless all the work of your hands (amp). When the Holy Spirit blows across the seeds I scatter, the ones of me being me in Christ, I don’t need to know where they land, what takes to good ground, and when or how it produces fruit. All I need to do is be me in Christ, to rest in the peace of God and trust Him that His word never turns back void, and He will bless the work of my hands.

 

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Author of multiple inspirational romance books published with a New York publisher, Christina offers insight on how she fulfilled the desire God placed on her heart to become a published author. As a minister, she brings her experience of breaking free from the offense of old wounds. She also gives suggestions on how to walk in a Godly spiritual response instead of a fleshly worldly response during tough, sometimes seemingly, crushing circumstances.

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{A Time to Plant} Sowing Wise Words, Not Weed Seeds

Written By: Vicki Johnson

The words escaped my lips before I knew it. His face indicated that my verbal aim was dead on, devastating the target. My son and I were going round and round about a situation his thoughtless attitude had caused and I was trying desperately to make my point clear. Choosing sarcasm to express myself resulted in collateral damage to our relationship requiring a diligent effort on my part to repair the harm my careless words had caused.

Like a hand that has the power to caress or slap the face, our words affect others to heal or to hurt. We say things without thinking, not considering the long-term implications. Words, like seeds, live in the hearts and minds of those who hear them.  Eventually they can germinate and produce more fruit of the same kind.

Proverbs 18:21 says “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

A seed is the promise of life. No horticulturist intentionally plants weeds in her garden. Who wants an abundance of unwanted, undesirable plants that only live to choke out the potential of beneficial produce? Great care is taken to plant a valuable seed in ground that will receive, establish, nourish, and grow it to full maturity and productivity.

Words can and should generate hope for those who have given up, love when hate is clouding the issues, comfort in times of hurt, kindness when tempted to lash out in anger. The kernel of this potential rests in the goodness of God.

Life began by the Word of God. God has given us the gift of speech; utilizing The Word in everyday life.

Make the most of your opportunities to plant good seeds into your family, the people you work with, strangers who cross your path as you go about your day.

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Vicki lives in southeastern Pennsylvania with her pastor hubby, David, and daughter, Esther. Her four sons, two daughters-in-law, and four grandchildren live in the Twin Cities area in Minnesota. She has just settled into her third home in the last four years and is looking forward to putting down roots, geographically and horticulturally. She writes at: http://gracefilledgirl.com/index.html , offering a cup of cool water for the marathon of life. She works as an on air announcer at 1075AliveFM/WBYN where her radio sign-off is 1 Thessalonians 5:24 “Faithful is He who calls you, and He will bring it to pass.”

 

 

 

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{There Is a Time} A Time to Be Born

Written By: Ana Nelson

I remember that night, it was very late and the stars were shining so bright. Tears running down my face and I couldn’t breath, my heart was racing and my mind was a fog. As I peeked out the window I let out a cry of mercy and a heart aching scream for God. It was silent and all I could hear was the echos of my heart being thrown back at me after bouncing off empty walls.

I knew I was far from the Lord, I knew that what I had done had built a wall between Gods Spirit and me. My heart aches knowing I’ve walked this far from what I once knew to be true, and there in that empty room with my hands holding my belly at the age of 16 I knew God was listening to my cry of  desperation and repentance. Like most of us who find our self in rough situations… I ran to God.

My parents came to Christ when I was five years old, my mother was the leader of women’s ministries and my father was a worship leader, who years later became a pastor. I knew OF God, but unfortunately I didn’t know him personally. I have to say, mammas just because you’re Christian, it doesn’t mean your children are. Our children must have an experience with our Lord to accept him but until that day we must prepare them and raise them in his ways in hopes that they choose life. Salvation is very personal.

I was a very young girl when I was introduced to sexual immorality against my will and it seemed that every person I encounter had the means to continue adding to my memory bank of sexual abuse from the age of five. It’s almost as if I had this sign on my shirt that read, “sexual object” and that slowly became something I accepted and started to find normal and by the time I was 16, sadly I found refuge on.

I was 16 years old when I became pregnant with my oldest daughter, Evelyn. I was young, inexperienced and immature. I had chosen to sin against God and my parents and made a choice to have sex before marriage. The results of that was a child. A child that never asked to be brought to this earth, yet was on its way. I know this is very unpopular in our world and I know many would consider them self’s better parents that mine because of their decision on how to deal with my fornication.

.MARRIAGE.

How dare they choose for a 16-year-old what’s best for her, clearly she’s smart enough to make good decisions!” Right? Ha! I wish more parents would choose what’s best for their idiotic 16 year old’s. “That’s the pastors family?!” I would hear. “I would never allow my child to have sex before marriage!” Some said, that was my favorite one since these people clearly thought my parents gave me the green light to sin. These people didn’t realize I’m a sinner too. I made these choices when my parents thought I was at school.  I was never one to be selfish about things but still the decisions I made, were clearly out of my own fleshly desire not thinking of my parents ministry that they later lost partly because of what I did. That’s selfish. Try caring that on your shoulders.

My parents with all wisdom and faithfulness to God did what they saw to be right and went to the court-house and asked the judge to marry me to someone I hardly knew. Four months to be exact. The judge, since I was 16 had to choose. Not my parents. She did a background check on his family and mine and determined I should not. My parents asked her to let them do what’s right in God’s eyes and after a long while she agreed. So there I was, 16, pregnant and married to a guy I hardly knew and who also wasn’t Christian oh and who was of a different culture and age. How was I going to win? By the time my daughter was born January 10th 2008, I was 17 and five months married.

The bible says to repent and confess. When I found out what I had done, what it really meant my heart hurt, I couldn’t breath, I felt a pain in my heart for what I had done. 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. There I say that night looking at the stars. Having a relationship with God again made me understand what I had to do. I wasn’t perfect all of a sudden I just understood what I was to do as a wife and mother but still had much to learn. I was to be responsible for the baby and to be of an example to my unconverted husband of age 19.

We had NOTHING in common but our sin. The only thing that brought us together was GOD. I was faithful to God in being of example, and Chris (my husband) opened his heart to God. This took 4 long, hurtful, scary and unpredictable years by the way. In fixing our sin he was faithful to us in leading us, cleaning us and preparing us to where we are. I can’t imagine life without my daughters, and soon son. Life without my husband, I couldn’t imagine where I would be now. As I look forward to celebrating our 10th marriage anniversary I look back at our heavy, graceful years of marriage how much God has restored, renewed, fixed, and loved us. How my parents decision was the start to my happy life in Christ. To my husbands coming to know Christ for the first time in his life. To our family and the future we will create for Gods glory.

God is faithful even when we are not.

My life was a mess and I thank God every moment I can for saving me and giving me a new life in him. For teaching me to love him and my husband, to be an example to my children. Thank you Jesus for your grace that reaches down and takes us from nothing and makes us clean and new in you. My heart will forever praise him for I was blind and now I see. Your amazing grace was enough for me. Thank you Jesus.

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Ana Nelson is a wife to her High school sweetheart, and mother of three little ones, longing to fulfill God’s will in her life by, serving and learning characteristics of a Godly woman, in a world that attacks the most beautiful ministry. Her heart’s desire is to share the bit she’s learned in hopes to reach other young mom’s and wife’s to serve with Joy in their homes and see the beauty of it.

 

 

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{A Time to Be Born} New Creation

Written By Katie Walker

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.

I repeated this verse in my head many times before I could accept it as truth. One of my counselors worked with me in pointing me towards this verse anytime I tried to explain to him that I wasn’t good enough for God; that I was always a sinner and always would be.

Though I had grown up in the church, I grew up with my own belief system about God. While I watched my older sibling rebel against my parents, I took pride in knowing I was not like him. While he continuously broke the rules, I strived to live by the rules believing that was all I needed to get by and be accepted.

If I just go to church every week… if I just obey mum and dad all the time… if I just do well at school and never get a detention… if I just read my bible every day… I will be good enough.

These ideas weren’t bad, but my motivation was. I became so focused on believing I had to do to earn any love or acceptance from both people and God.

This belief system didn’t lead me very far. In fact, I became very stuck in a self-destructive cycle when it became clear I couldn’t stick to those rules.

Each time I tried to be good enough and tried to be perfect, I failed. And, soon enough I was living a life completely guided by guilt and shame which brought me even further away from God.

My thought patterns and beliefs turned from If I just try… to I will never be good enough.

Even though I grew up with the knowledge of God, and the Bible and salvation, I ran far from God believing I would never be fit for His family. I was ashamed, and believed I was a mistake.

The years after I graduated high school, and tried to attend University, are a blur for me. I entered destructive relationships and got caught up in self-destructive cycles.  I didn’t think I was worth waiting for. I continued to believe I was much too broken for God.

Eventually I hit rock bottom and was hospitalized. At this point I knew the only way was to turn back to God. This was the turning point for me. I knew my belief system wasn’t getting me anywhere. Clearly I was missing something. I returned home to my family, and more importantly turned my ways back to God. I began a long, hard, painful journey of recovery.

Over the next 5 years I have continued to learn more and more about God’s unconditional love, amazing grace and sovereignty.

Not only that, I have accepted His unconditional love, amazing grace and sovereignty. I am a work-in-progress but am no longer bound my legalistic beliefs, or guilt. I have learned more about God, salvation and forgiveness in the last 5 years than I have in my whole life growing up in the church.

It doesn’t matter where we come from or who we are, there is always a time to be born. I was once born to my parents, and I was born again to God.

HeadshotKatie is a child of God. She loves Jesus, coffee, owls and craft. Katie is also passionate about writing encouraging articles for Christian women to point them to Jesus. You can read her blog at www.ourseasonsofgrace.blogpost.com.au

 

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{A Time to Be Born} Patti’s Story

Written By: Patti A. Pierce

In 1991, I began what is a relationship that is now in its 26th year.  I met the love of my life.   Dennis is an incredible man of God.  In August of 1992, we were married.  He was 30 years old at the time we were married, and I was 23-year-old.  I always knew I wanted to have children, but I was in no hurry at the time.  So, we set out to enjoy our first year of marriage.  At the end of that year, we started thinking about possibly starting a family.  But once again, we were in no real hurry.  Our second year of marriage flew by and we still were blessed with a child.  By this time, I was ready to have a baby.  All around us, various family members and friends were enjoying the blessings of being pregnant and having babies.

After a couple of trips to the OB/GYN doctor I had been seeing I was getting really concerned.  One day I went into the office convinced I was pregnant.  The staff members simply had me give a sample and then proceeded to come out and tell me it was negative and where to go to check out.  I was devastated when I left the office.  By this point various family members had begun asking questions about when we were going to have children.  I watched my husband’s sister and his sister-in-law being blessed with additions to their family.

Finally, we decided to switch doctors.  From the moment, I walked into the new office, I had an entirely different experience.  Because of how long we had been trying to conceive, the doctor recommended I start Clomid to help me conceive.  He also realized I had chronic hypertension, meaning high blood pressure, and sent me to a different doctor to address that.  After one cycle of Clomid, my husband and I decided to stop that intervention.  I hated the person I became while taking the medicine.  My husband and I discussed our other options, including the idea of adoption, but neither of us felt that was the right option for us.  We both agreed that either God would bless us with a child or He would close that door for us.  We became reconciled to leaving the matter in God’s hands.

Over the next 10-12 months, I lost a substantial amount of weight and got my blood pressure under control.  So, in September of 1995, I could stop the blood pressure pills.  Life went on and on October 31, 1991 we received surprising news.  That morning, I felt like we might be pregnant, but I wanted to know for sure.  I called my husband at work and asked him to meet me that evening at a local clinic to have a blood test done.  I guess I should have told him not to mention it to anyone, but I really did not think about it.  So that evening we went and had the blood drawn.  Very quickly, we were told the results were positive.  In God’s time, He had blessed us with a child.

We left the office and went home to pick up a mug we had received in a Tupperware shipment that made it clear we were expecting.  I wrapped it up to present to my mother-in-law. Then we went to my grandfather-in-law’s house since there was a family get-together that night.  As we entered the house, various aunts and uncles asked if we pregnant.  Obviously, my husband had told my father-in-law, who in turn told my mother-in-law, who in turn told other family members and so the news spread.  I firmly believed my in-laws should hear it first.  it was such a blessing to share the news.

Over the next months, I enjoyed every minute of my pregnancy.  And on June 28, 1996, I was blessed to become a mother for the first time.  As God’s Word states, “There is a time to be born” and this was the time for our first son to be born.  Over the next several years, we added two more sons in 1998 and 2000 followed by a daughter in 2002.  God has richly blessed me through my children.  Even though the road to have our first son was not smooth and simple, I would not have changed anything.  If you are in a stage of waiting to have children, I pray for God to draw you near to Him.  If you are in the stages of young children, I pray for God to bless you as well.  If you are dealing with teenagers, college students or an empty nest, I pray for God to surround you as well.

~Patti

My name is Patti Pierce and my husband and I have been married for over 23 years.  My husband has been an ordained Primitive Baptist preacher almost that entire time.  We are a Military Homeschooling Family who lives in North Central Pennsylvania. We put our faith in the one true Sovereign God.  We have been on our homeschooling journey for over 10 years now.  We have four children – three sons ages 19, 17 and 15 along with a daughter who is 13.  I blog about our life as a family, as home-schoolers, and our faith which guides our daily lives.

 

My blogs are:

 

https://truthandgracehomeschoolacademy.wordpress.com/

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https://truthandgracewritingandlifecoaching.wordpress.com/ where I blog about the very beginning of journey to blog about my journey about being a writer and about working on my masters degree in Human Services with a concentration in Life Coaching.  I never dreamed this is where I would wind up, but this is where I find myself being led to go.

 

 

 

 

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{A Time To Be Born} Daughter of the King

Written by: Nichole Stern

I spent my life drawing lines in the sand. I might do this bad thing, but I wouldn’t cross my imaginary line and do “that” worse thing. And because I wouldn’t do “that,” I believed I was better than those who did.
Terribly backward thinking, I know.
But a sinner will tell themselves all kinds of lies to justify their sin.
I’m just a small town girl from South Georgia who was determined to be somebody one day. I come from a great home. My parents are amazing and I’ve never doubted their love for me. They taught me right from wrong, and I became really good at choosing “right” when people were watching, but doing “wrong” every chance I got.
In my single-minded pursuit of fulfillment, I spent years chasing the things this world had to offer and it wasn’t long before the road I had chosen became a battlefield littered with the relationships and dreams I had sacrificed in the name of success.

 

Although I’d said a prayer as a child and thought I knew who God was, I was far from Him, and each step up the ladder of success led me further and further away.
I remember congratulating myself and pridefully thinking I’d finally made it when I found myself working in a corner office with a view of the Statue of Liberty.
Success tasted so sweet in the daylight.
But later that night, after working another twelve hour day, as I stood in the pouring rain waiting for a cab, I was overcome with a heart wrenching loneliness and a soul emptiness I feared would never be filled. Thinking I could shake these feelings, I continued to chase my dreams, always believing I’d be satisfied by just a little bit more.
Still seeking to find my worth in the things of this world, I moved to South Florida for a guy. I left all the familiar things behind and even took an entry level job to follow him. Once there, it seemed the loneliness and emptiness I’d been battling only intensified. My guy was traveling for work 95% of the time and when he was home, we argued. A lot.
During this time, I passed a little church on my way to work every day, and like a moth to a flame, I was drawn to eventually attend Sunday services. The Pastor passionately spoke truth in love and he along with others from the church truly lived their lives to honor God. They loved me in spite of myself. I’d never experienced anything like it before. God used the Truth I learned there to change my heart.
One Sunday morning in 2006, after hearing a message from Luke 18 where Jesus compares the prayers of the Pharisee and the tax collector, God showed me my Pharisee heart. My prideful drive to be better than everyone else and my refusal to see beyond myself had kept me from Him. He allowed me to come to the end of myself, because when I found myself surrounded by all my failures and brokenness, I found Him. He showed me all the ways I’d tried and failed to fill the void in my soul, and in His great grace, mercy and forgiveness, I finally saw He was what I’d been searching for all those years.
When Love found me eleven years ago, all those lines I had drawn in the sand were washed away by amazing grace.
He wrecked me in the best way, and I’m committed to spend my life following hard after Him, because now I understand the somebody I am meant to be is the Daughter of the King.

 

Nichole is a grateful Jesus girl saved by grace who has been called to live out Psalm 107:2 “…let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story.”
She serves on the Teaching Team with Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies. She is a writer and speaker who finds great joy in mentoring young women and helping others learn more about God through studying His word.
Nichole and her husband, Todd live on a little slice of awesomeness outside Raleigh, NC they call Manna Homestead. They share this space with rabbits, goats, chickens, bees, and their two dogs, Maverick and Charleigh.
Facebook: Nichole Stern
Twitter: @nicholestern
Instagram: @nicholestern
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{A Time to Be Born} My Story

Written By: Michelle Nehrig

“If I told you my story, you would hear Hope that wouldn’t let go.
And if I told you my story, you would hear Love that never gave up.
And If I told you my story, you would hear Life, but it wasn’t mine.
If I should speak, then let it be of the grace that is greater than all my sin.
Of when justice was served and where mercy wins.
Of the kindness of Jesus that draws me in. Oh to tell you my story is to tell of Him.
This is my story, this is my song. Praising my Savior all the day long.”

 

~~ “My Story” by Big Daddy Weave ~~

 

My name is Michelle Nehrig and this is my story. I pray that you read these words and read of Him.
I came to Christ in August 2004. On December 29, 2004, my beautiful daughter was conceived. She was conceived out of wedlock, and, to many in the church, she was born in sin. But she was just what God used to reach me. In many ways, I was not prepared to be a single mother. In many other, more amazing ways, ways I knew nothing of at the time, God knew exactly what He was doing.

 

From the instant her father and I came together, I had a very strong suspicion that I was pregnant. I wouldn’t take an OTC pregnancy test until March of 2005 to have my suspicions confirmed. It was during that period of time that we buried my great-grandmother. I was not close to her growing up, as she lived in Minnesota, and we were in Indiana. But I firmly believe that it was because of her prayers that I’m here to write this story out for you today. I was her eldest great-grandchild, so I read at her funeral in Minnesota.

 

On September 29, 2005, my beautiful daughter, Emma Grace, made her debut into the world. I joke about it now, but I’m pretty sure I was serious at the time. I tell people she was evicted. She had overstayed her welcome by 9 days and it was TIME! She was the one who made me a momma. From the moment I found out I was pregnant with her, my life became more than just about me. Then, the moment I met her — my socks were knocked off! I had no idea that a ‘little’ 8 lb, 3 oz person could completely take my word by storm. I knew life was going to be tough. When I had told her dad that I was pregnant, he said that he would support me whatever ‘choice’ I made. As though there was a choice OTHER than to bear this child and raise her the best way I knew how. Shortly after; however, I would learn that he still hadn’t grown up and would not be there for her or I.

 

I was so fortunate during these difficult times; I had my mom and my grandparents to lean on. I know my grandparents were upset because Emma’s dad was not doing anything to support this child he helped bring into the world. We were on food stamps, Medicaid, and TANF. All government programs that I would have NEVER thought I would ever need.

 

All through my teens and 20’s and into my 30’s, I sought the love that daddies are supposed to give. My biological father was never around, and I never had a good, strong male role model to be there for me. Alas, I was always ‘looking for love in all the wrong places.’ I gave a piece of myself to any male who showed me a little bit of attention. I thought that if I gave them what they wanted, they would, in turn, give me what I wanted. Much to my heartbreak and disappointment, I was wrong.

 

When I came to Jesus, I thought this would be the answer to my proverbial prayers. I thought life would begin to be EASY. Boy was I mistaken. But every challenge, every hair-pin turn, every obstacle that came my way, God gave me just enough grace for that day and for that moment and for that situation.

 

When my daughter was about 6 months old, I had her dedicated in our church. Her Godfather was the minister of music at our church. I was convinced that God had chosen him for me. And he adored my daughter. So, still being confused about what it was like to hear from God, I pursued him. And then I got pregnant a second time. This time, it was a boy.
I thought that we would end up together. Looking at the situation now, I’m grateful that God knew what He was doing at the time. Despite the fact that I thought my world was ending.

 

If I believed I had no idea what life would be like with one child, I was completely baffled by what life would entail with two little ones. The Lord saw fit to meet all of my needs then, despite being a single mother to two small children-both still in diapers!

 

My daughter is the one who gave me the title ‘Mom.’ She taught me how to be selfless; how to give until I thought there was nothing left, only to find out there were reserves the Lord gave me.

 

If my daughter taught me how to be responsible, then my son taught me how to cut loose and have fun. My sweet Elijah does not know a stranger, and to this day, no matter how frustrated or upset with him I am, he knows he can make me laugh. He knows that he can bring me to the brink of insanity with his loudness, and then with his magnetic personality and winning smile, he pulls me right back in.

 

Looking back, I see how He was stretching my faith. He was pursuing my heart and wooing me. He was showing me how He would be there for me always. He was showing me how He would always meet my needs. Even if it didn’t look like I thought it would. He knew best.

 

As the saying goes, “The days are long, but the years are short.” This is certainly true in child-rearing. I was working full-time, dreaming of the day I could NOT be working full-time. The kids were in a wonderful daycare, and we were all happy as clams. With some daily struggles, of course.

 

There’s another saying. “Don’t birth an Ishmael.” Well, from the time I knew I was expecting my first child, I wanted to be a homeowner. My mother was a single mom, raising me and my brother. I know she did the best she could with what she had. But we moved…a lot. My dream was to provide a solid foundation for my children, within the four walls of a house.

 

I remember seeing a home on a busy street in my town. It was cheap. Once I took a look inside, I knew why. It was two stories, and when you made it to the second floor, you felt like you were being propelled toward the street! The house was slanted! But I, in my infinite wisdom, just knew that God had this house for me! Well, at every turn, there was a road block. I was trying to birth an Ishmael and do things my way. Little did I know what God had in store for me!

 

In 2011, over Christmas break, we went to Culver’s for lunch (as a side note, I hope you have a Culver’s where you live, they are delicious burgers, and it’s a wonderful atmosphere!). I was scanning the local listings, and as soon as I saw pictures, I KNEW it was the home for us! I contacted my agent, and in March 2012, we moved in and began a new adventure.

 

In October, 2015 I married the man I thought was my ‘forever’ and I quit my job. Unfortunately, this man had other plans. I found out one year and ten days after our wedding day that he had not been honest with me from day one. My entire world crumbled before me.

 

I tried to tell myself that we could work on us and stick it out, but he continued to tell me lies and half truths and hide things from me. I knew it was time to move on.

 

He moved out a few weeks later. I knew he needed to be out by the close of 2016, because I did not want to start a new year with the stress and drama and lies that had been taking place.  I was determined that a fresh start to my life would occur in 2017.
I filed for divorce on February 9, 2017. This was not how I suspected that my future would turn out. But I know that brighter days are ahead.

 

My kids and I recently moved. I just ‘happened’ to come across a house that was for rent. This house was almost exactly half way between each of my kids’ schools and also only about five minutes from our church home and my work. It is the perfect fit for us as we begin again, just the three of us.

 

I say that I ‘happened’ to come across this house, but let me tell you a few things about how this ‘happened.’ My cousin was aware that I was looking for something for just me and my two kids. She drove down a country road that she doesn’t typically travel. She found a ‘For Rent’ sign and sent me the information. I was skeptical, at best, but I called.

 

When I called, the sweet lady who answered the phone asked me if I wanted to look at it right away. I picked up my son from school and we drove over. The kids were sold INSTANTLY. I, on the other hand, didn’t want to get my hopes up, so I was hesitantly excited.

 

I went through the application process and the owners informed me they wanted my children and I to be the next tenants. BUT, they were concerned about my income, so in order to do make things a little easier on me, the decided to LOWER THE RENT. Who does that?!? Especially because I never even dreamed about asking them to do that.

 

There was one thing possibly standing in my way. My current lease. I knew that when the lease was up at the end of August, my kids and I could not stay there because the rent was too high for me to afford on my own. I needed to see if I could not only get my current landlord to let me out of the lease early, but also refund some of the money I gave him to pay for the lease through the end of August. Um, not likely, but I have to ask, because the worst he can say is ‘no.’

 

Well, guess what? He agreed. He did keep a portion of the rent in order to pay for the time it would take to find new tenants, since they weren’t anticipating needing to advertise it so soon.

 

Folks, this kind of stuff doesn’t just ‘happen.’ This is the hand of God.

 

The past two years have not been easy. But He never told us things would be easy. He just promised to be there for us.

 

Through every hair-pin twist and turn, overcoming each obstacle, sometimes hanging on for dear life, He has been with me. He has proven faithful through my answered prayers AND my unanswered ones. It is when I’ve looked BACK that I discovered what He was doing. Which is for the best, because I would have shrunk back in fear. We aren’t always ready for what He has in store for us, but that’s the beautiful thing. He readies us.

 

My life verse is Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him and he will make your paths straight.” This is something I’m still learning.
~ Michelle

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Michelle is a daughter of the King of Kings. She loves Jesus, her children, coffee, and books.
Michelle is grateful for the grace that is heaped upon her daily by her heavenly Daddy. She is still learning how to accept it for the gift that it is. You can find her thoughts, life-lessons, and sometimes comical adventures with her animals at: beauty in between.
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{Pastors Wives} Don’t Blow It: A Time for Everything

Written By:  Bobbie Schaeperkoetter
Time.  It’s our most valuable resource.  It’s the one thing there just never seems to be enough of and it’s the one thing that is forever gone once it is spent.  It also happens to be one of the easiest things to waste.  Time just seems to slip right through our fingers no matter how desperately we try to hold onto it.
 
I’m not always careful with how I spend my time.  I like to imagine that when it comes to time, I am rich, and I can just spend, spend, spend, without any worry about ever running out.  I want to frivolously spend all of my time in ways that are fun and make me happy.  For me, that if it were totally my choice, I would blow my time on Netflix, naps, and lazy days instead of investing it on the things that matter and have eternal value. 
Honestly, it is one of my biggest struggles.  My perception of my time is so skewed sometimes.  And it starts right there with the word MY.  I think it’s MY time to spend however I like and I get forgetful of the fact that every minute that I have is a gift from my Heavenly Father. 
When I get greedy with my time, I need a change in my perspective.  Maybe we all do when we get a little too protective of our time.  We need to remember that it’s His time and we need to look at it and spend it with that fact in mind.
I know that God has placed a calling on my life.  I know that He has a specific purpose for me and that He has a good plan for my life.  My minutes matter to Him because He’s created me for a purpose, with a purpose.
If you are still on this earth, He has a purpose for you too.
We can flit away the precious time He’s given us with things that don’t matter and don’t have any value, or we can see time for what it really is.  Time is a resource, a tool, to be used for God’s glory. 
Maybe your calling is to write or speak or teach.  Maybe God is calling you to serve children, teens, women, homeless, hurting, or needy in a way that only you can.  Maybe you are called to be a mom, a wife, a sister, a friend, a colleague, a student, a family member, or a daughter. 
Maybe your purpose is huge and grand or maybe it seems kind of small.  Our callings can look vastly different, but one thing about our callings will always remain the same.  Our callings are from God, for us, for a specific purpose at this time in our lives.
I’m reminded of Esther 4 when God has called Esther to intervene on behalf of the Jews.  God is calling her for a specific purpose at a specific time in her life.  She can ignore that call or she can walk it out.  She can blow her time, or she can invest it by doing the work that God has called her to do at this moment. 
He uncle gives her a warning that can be applied to all of us.   I’m paraphrasing, but in Esther 4:14 her uncle basically says, “Esther, you can ignore God’s call and do what you want.  You can take the easy way out, but if you do, you’re blowing it.  If you don’t walk out your calling, you’re wasting this gift of time that God gave you because He will use someone else and you will have blown your opportunity.  Who knows?  Maybe all of your life has been preparing you for how you would spend these moments.”
I don’t want to waste my time.  I want to use every single minute that God gives me well.  I want to invest them in a way that produces heavenly rewards.  I don’t want God to give my moments to someone else who would use them better than I do.  I want to be a good steward with the gift of my time.  Don’t you?
Just like Esther, we’ve been called for such a time as this.  We have a specific purpose ordained by God just for us.  There is a time for everything and our time is now.  Let’s not blow it.  Let’s note waste it. 
 
Prayer:
Father God,
Thank you for the gift of time.  Thank you for the specific plan and purpose that you have for our life.  Thank you for the time that you’ve blessed us with.  Help us to see our time as a tool and a resource to invest in ways that will bring you honor and glory and will draw people to you. Help us to use our time wisely and not to blow it frivolously.  Give us wisdom and self-control in this area. 
In Jesus’ name we pray,
Amen.
 
Love and blessings,
Bobbie Schaeperkoetter
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*Bobbie Schaeperkoetter is married to her high school sweet heart and is a homeschooling mama of a tween boy and a teen boy.  She loves Jesus with her whole heart and is just doing her best to honor him in the craziness of life.  She would love to be a friend and encourage you in your Christian walk as you do the same.
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