I’m fine.

Written By: Marisa Dech

I hear a lot of conversations that go something like this…

“Hey, how are you?” “Oh, I’m fine. How are you?” “Good thanks!”

But are we really fine when we say that?

Why do we pretend we’re fine when we’re hurting?

-maybe we just don’t know the person well enough and aren’t comfortable sharing with them?

-maybe because we don’t want to draw attention to ourselves or attract the attention of eavesdroppers?

-maybe we just don’t want to feel judged or have people think less of us?

-maybe we think they won’t take us seriously or maybe they’ll laugh?

-maybe we will breakdown crying or become overwhelmed by explaining our situation?

If you are this person struggling, please tell someone you trust. Everyone has someone they can talk to whether it be a friend, a co-worker, a parent, a spouse or significant other, a teacher, a pastor, etc. You are not alone.

On the other hand…

Do we actually care how others are doing or are we just making conversation? What if that person were to actually tell you how they are doing?

Would you be prepared for an answer like the following:

-My marriage is falling apart

-I’ve been struggling with depression/anxiety

-My parents are getting a divorce

-I’ve been abused

-I’m not sure I can do this anymore

What if we stopped and really looked at the other person and said:

-Are you sure you’re fine/okay?

-Really?

-Do you want to talk somewhere private?

We as Christians need to be awake & alert and not coast through life. You could be there for someone that really needs help.

I’ll leave you with some lyrics to a song called “If We Are the Body” by Casting Crowns. It talks about our duty as Christians to reach out and be like Jesus:

“But if we are the body

Why aren’t His arms reaching?

Why aren’t His hands healing?

Why aren’t His words teaching?

And if we are the body

Why aren’t His feet going?

Why is His love not showing them there is a way?

There is a way, there is a way”

 

Until Next Time,

~Marisa