Written by: Kerrington Sweeney
“Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, and dignity.” -Titus 2:7
Today, I am going to be chatting a bit, about something that is very crucial in this time and hour in our culture. And that my friends, is…What qualities, young Christian women want in a guy! Of course I can’t speak for all, but I do know that I am speaking for a majority of young women. These are qualities that are so very near and dear to my heart and the hearts of many other young women. I recently organized a miniature poll in the Young Christian Women community and asked the question:
“What are some qualities that is Important to you, in a guy?”
These are real young women, with real passions to serve Christ with their guy/girl relationships. With very real answers. I was totally blown away by the wisdom these ladies had to share. Here are some of the results from the poll:
- Lover Of Christ.
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind.” -Luke 20:27
We want someone who is a guy that is devoted to The Lord with all of his heart. Someone who has a sincere burning passion to follow Christ with everything he’s got. Someone who is willing to lay down his life for his faith. Someone who is so in love with Jesus, its flows in his veins, it’s part of his very being. Someone who daily digs deep into the word and is a powerful young man of God.
- Values and Protects Purity.
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” -1 Corinthians 6:18
Someone who sees our virginity as an incredible valuable treasure. Someone who would do everything in his power to protect that treasure. Someone who wouldn’t push his own ways, but value us and our personal boundaries. Someone who has a spirit of Self-control.
“Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” -Romans 12:10
This one, is a huge-missed used joke in the culture we live in. Whether it’s respect for each other in the relationship, or respect for the families of the guy/girl. This is a true lost art; but respect is something that is a definite must in a relationship. Respectful guys are super-hard to come by these days.
“A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.” -Proverbs 11:13
Someone in whom we can place our full-complete trust in. Someone who we can talk with, through the hard times, and know that we will be supported by them and lifted up daily, if needed. Someone who we can run to and talk about the fierce challenges we, as young women are facing and find a sense of refuge and of comfort. This also goes further than just trust in each other, we want someone who has an anchored trust in God. Someone who can pray for peace in the times of chaos and hardship. (Because yes, those may come) Someone who can become a strong spiritual leader of the home.
“Sanctify them in the truth; your word is truth.” -John 17:17
The quality of being honest. Something that has been so truly lost in the dark shadows. We want someone who is nothing, but completely honest with us. Someone who lets us know when things are not going so well…someone who is not afraid to tell us the trials, they are going through.
“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.” -Colossians 3:23
We want someone who is hard-working, someone who has strong work ethics. Someone who will be able to support the family both physically and spiritually. A young man of integrity in all his work. Someone who isn’t afraid to step up to the plate and work hard for his family and his friends. Someone who won’t give up, no matter the situation.
- Willing to wait.
“Jacob served seven years for his Rachel and they seemed to him, but only a few days because of his true-passionate love for her.” -Genesis 29:20
We want someone who is willing to wait for us, no matter what the wait maybe. Someone who is willing to wait patiently till our parents say we have their blessing, and for The Lord to give us the ‘Go-ahead.’ Waiting is also a lost quality in the Young men of today.
“Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you.” -1 Peter 5:6
Someone who is proud, but not prideful. Someone who is confident, but not cocky. Someone who is willing to get down on the same level as others, to fully understand what people are going through. Someone who has a gentle spirit of humility. What raises a man up more than any other earthly thing is his ability to humble himself. A real man doesn’t need to talk up who he is, because his life does that for him. He can put away the talk, because a man of humility is focused so much more on his walk. He is so quick to listen, slow to speak and even slower to become angry because he has put away his “rights” for the right to be selfless, loving and oh-so full of grace.
“Be strong and courageous.” -Deuteronomy 31:6
Someone who is willing to fight for us. Willing to take on a battle at any time just to protect us, willing to give his life for us. Someone who is strong and courageous in all his ways.
- Loves us.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” -Genesis 2:24
Last, but not at all the least. We simply want someone who is so in love with us. Someone who would spend every waking minute with us, if they could. Someone who is into doing random sweet gestures and is always there to encourage. Someone who simply Treasures us for who we are.
Until Next Time,