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{Worth} Immeasurably Beautiful You

Written By Melanie S. Pickett

Self-worth. Girls, this is so tough. This time of year sometimes brings on some painful feelings for many of us in this area. The holidays are a reminder of who’s in our lives, who loves us, who might not.

The Christmas cards arrive in the mailbox, but what if I get many and you only get a few? Or vice versa? Do you gauge your self-worth by that?

What about how many presents you’re able to put under your tree? What if this year your finances are slimmer and you have to be even more frugal than usual? Is your self-worth tied to the amount of money you’re able to spend or the number of gifts you’re able to give?

Party invitations come. But what if none come to you? Or if a dozen come to you? Does that mean you’re any more or less special based on how many Christmas events you’re invited to?

What if you’re living far away from home and can’t afford to travel back for Christmas? Are you less important because you might be alone come Christmas morning?

If you don’t get a bonus or a gift from your boss, does that mean you’re not a valuable employee?

And if the neighbors, your Secret Sister at church, your best friend, your roommate, or your significant other don’t give you a lavish gift for Christmas, does that mean you’re not a great neighbor, church member, friend, roommate or girlfriend?

Let me tell you this, lovely friends: No matter how many cards come…no matter how many presents you can afford…no matter how many super fun parties you’re invited to or not…no matter how much or how little your Christmas bonus is…or what those closest to you gift you with…or even if you’re alone on Christmas…

All these things…They don’t say one thing (not one thing!) about your worth.

Your value is not wrapped up in popularity. Or your financial abilities. Your value is not defined by what others in your life think it is. Your value isn’t about gifts you give or receive. Your value has nothing to do with how many people you’ll be surrounded by on any given holiday.

Your value is that of a Princess. You are a child of the One True King. Royalty. Priceless.

Nothing. No circumstance. No dollar amount. No person. No anything will ever determine or change your worth.

God knows your worth. He made you in His image with beautiful talents and gifts, abilities and special traits. He went before you to make a path for your life, and even if that path isn’t crystal clear just yet, it’s there…because He said so.

If you don’t get invited to one party, don’t get one card or gift, or even end up in your house or apartment Skyping someone on Christmas morning, your worth doesn’t change one iota. It will always be immense, immeasurable, priceless, and unchangeable.

…because God said so.

~ Melanie

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{ Worth} More Precious Than Rubies

Written by: Melanie Pickett

I’m a writer and a blogger. That means social media is a pretty significant part of my every day world. We see a lot on social media: happiness, fitness journeys, fashion, relationship success, great report cards. Many social media outlets are a sort-of scrapbook of the highlights of our lives.

They’re wonderful for keeping up with old friends and new and family, displaying pictures and being able to be part of loved ones’ lives from afar.

But social media can also be only the highlights reel—only showing the happy and good aspects–and that can leave many people feeling left out and “less than”. We look at others’ lives and start wondering what we’re doing wrong that we don’t have such a fabulous home, car, wardrobe, or mate.

I remember when I first started out writing online and launched my Facebook writer page and Twitter. When I’d look at other writers’ pages, I’d feel a pang of inferiority when I’d see several hundred or several thousand page likes. There I was, just praying to reach one-hundred. Look at them with thousands of followers, all those people who think they’re great and are reading every word they write. I was envious and deflated, thinking nobody will ever adore my writing like that.

We often scroll through our feed and see what appears to be perfect couples with perfect families who have perfectly tidy homes, excellent jobs, lavish vacations, new cars, Pinterest-worthy birthday parties, and we feel like the less than.

We start to wonder if there’s something wrong with us if we don’t feel head-over-heels in love with our spouse every second; or if we’re bad parents if our kids don’t get all A’s or if we’re single. We wonder if maybe we’re failures if we struggle to pay some bills or if we can’t take a vacation this year (or last year) or if our car has a little rust on it.

If we post something and only get a couple of likes, those thoughts go through our heads that people don’t think we’re pretty or that our life is less than interesting or…maybe people don’t really even like us at all!

It feels like one giant popularity contest sometimes. But take heart, friend. Our worth was never and will never be in social media or what we have or even in what people think of us. Our worth is in Jesus. He determined how priceless we are when He died on the cross long before we ever existed. Jesus was thinking of us when He hung agonizingly on the cross. He died for all of us, but He would have died for just one of us. Let that sink in and truly absorb that.

A quick search can show us dozens of verses in the Bible showing God’s love for us and some even specifically speak to our invaluable worth. One of my favorites is “She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her.” Proverbs 3:15.

Next time you or a friend is feeling “less than”, I challenge you (and myself) to look up Bible verses about worth. Check out your real worth, what God says it is. He knows us intimately and He made us, knit us together before we were born and was equipping us for the calls He has on our lives.  You are precious in His sight, and please don’t ever forget that.

Be encouraged,

Melanie

 

mpMelanie Pickett is a writer, blogger, and speaker who uses her words and domestic violence experience to educate and encourage others about healthy relationships and knowing their worth.    Melanie is currently completing her first nonfiction book and contributes at Defying Shadows and is an entertainment editor at Sonoma Christian Home. Melanie’s work has been featured on The Mighty, HuffPost, BlogHer, Splickety Magazine, and Whole Magazine. Melanie calls west Michigan home where she enjoys life with her two teenage children, her husband, and a black pug named Gracie.

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