Written By: Stacy Hudson
Someone says “you look great today!” and the person replies “oh my goodness no I’ve got bags under my eyes and this shirt is so old!” Sound familiar? Why do women do this? Whether I am hanging out with family, friends, or even at Bible study… I always hear at least one…usually many more… comments like this!
In a world that fills our heads with ideas of what we are supposed to be… we need to stand firm on what the Bible tells us we are!
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. -Psalm 139:14
YOU are fearfully and wonderfully made! Does that make you stand up a little straighter? I hope so! This is just one of the many Bible verses that should help us curb our self hate talk.
Therefore do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God you may receive what is promised. -Hebrews 10:35-36
DO NOT throw away your confidence! This means you should have some! And you will need confidence and endurance to accomplish the will of God in your life! Not only that but then you can receive what is promised!
Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. -Hebrews 4:16
YOU NEED confidence to draw near to the throne of grace! We all need mercy and grace right?!
I think women (myself included) often times confuse confidence with arrogance. So if someone tells us that we look nice…instead of saying “thank you” we immediately try to “not be arrogant” by insulting ourselves. We all do it! WHY?! I think this is one of the biggest tools the devil uses against women. He sets us up against ourselves and he is free to go attack someone else. After all, if we will insult ourselves for fear of sounding arrogant he doesn’t need to. And yet while we are “not being arrogant” we are actually not being confident! We are also not living up to our full potential in God. The devil knows if he can keep us drowning in self doubt… he has us kept.
- The next time your husband gives you a compliment just say “thank you” and maybe give him a kiss on the cheek just to be sweet!
- The next time your mom tells you she likes your new haircut just say “thank you” and maybe compliment her as well!
- The next time a friend mentions that your hair is long and beautiful just say “thank you” and maybe remind her that she too has beautiful features.
CAN YOU IMAGINE THE IMPACT IF WE ALL BUILT EACH OTHER UP?! INCLUDING OURSELVES?!
The devil wouldn’t stand a chance.
If we were all confident enough to use the gifts and talents God has given us then so many more lives would be impacted. So many more lives would be written in the Lamb’s Book of Life! What do we gain by putting ourselves down? I would venture to say only a stiff neck from hanging our heads in self doubt. If we would have confidence in ourselves and confidence in the Lord… we could move mountains!
We are God’s handiwork…His creation…His design… remember this the next time you want to correct someone and tell them that you are too short or that you wish you had different colour eyes. GOD MADE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE TO FULFILL HIS PURPOSES. Do not grieve His heart by putting yourself down. Walk confidently in the Lord and hold your head up.
Stacy Hudson is a wife, mom, daughter, sister, and friend. She has been married to her husband Dwight for 5 years! Stacy is a stay at home mom and spends a lot of her day chasing their curious and quick 1 year old around! She loves to hang out with family and friends, get crafty or techy, and watch their little girl grow. She also loves to get deep into the Word, into worship, and into the works of the Holy Spirit. She is a work in progress but she knows God isn’t finished with her yet. She loves to watch God at work in her life and the lives of those around her! Connect with her today and read more from Stacy at www.BetterThanNewlyweds.com.