Written by: Kerrington Sweeney
As I began preparing my post for today, I began to read many scripture verses, quotes, and definitions on Identity and what it truly meant. When I continued reading many different pieces of information it was interesting to see the many different views and opinions on the specific word, Identity.
A definition that truly stood out to me, was this…Identity- Who someone is. The name of a person. The qualities, beliefs; that make a particular person or group different from others.
In a moment to kick this post off, I am going to ask you a pretty serious question. Some of you may have an answer and some of you may not have the answer. By the end of tonight, I am praying with all my heart, that you are able to walk away with an answer to this question.
When I continued preparations for today’s post, I asked myself this certain question, and to be brutally honest…I didn’t even have the answers. So here comes the question…are you guys ready? In this bombarding world we live in…
What defines you?
What makes you the way you are?
When this question arose in my heart, a bit of shame came over me, because I truly didn’t know what I really was defined by. What made me, me? What made me different from others, just as our definition said earlier? What were the qualities and beliefs that I was made of?
Now your Identity is something, not that you earn, it’s not something you are given, it’s not even something you can buy. Your identity is you. Yes, you! You carry your identity…In your very being. Today, we are going to talk about many different things that can change or affect your identity.
Just about over a year ago, I was at my church chatting with a bunch of friends before service one Sunday, discussing the different “groups” in High-schools. Me being homeschooled all my Life, I began to be a bit curious about what group I would have been a part of, if I had attended conventional School. Right there, in my church lobby a large debate was happening amongst my friends on what Group, I truly would have been a part of. As they described the many different types of people, I started to realize how very different each person’s group was.
There was the Jocks, the math geeks, the smokers, the popular girls, the chess club, the jokers, the goths, the rebels, the preps, the hippies, the models, the health nuts, the tomboys, the punks, the nerds, the flirts, and the cheerleaders. The list seriously could go on forever. How weird it felt, basically being on trial, debate on what group I should be a part of. How cool, is that though…That my friends, without me even stepping a foot into their high-school could easily define me and pre-determine my outcome just by my personality, my character and my Identity.
Here are 4 points, that I am going to give you today. I encourage you to write them down and meditate on the scriptures I share…
- Words– This a huge one for me, even personally. Your words. The way you even speak is a part of your Identity. People remember you, for the way that you speak. People remember you also, for the way that you swear. Swearing and using the Lord’s name in vain changes your very being. It changes the atmosphere you carry. Who here knows that you carry the very power to change atmospheres wherever you go? This can be a good thing or a very terrible thing. Watch your tongue.
Proverbs 21:23 “Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble.”
2. Relationships– Oh, so young and in Love! These are the words that come to mind when I think of relationships. Relationships have a HUGE and I mean huge role in our identities. I never personally, have been in an official dating relationship before, but I have had experiences with these types of things. Relationships, oh so wonderful, yet sometimes so very dangerous for some…When you are interested in a certain someone, you basically study them. Their likes, dislikes, hobbies, favorite foods, favorite color, favorite sports, etc. You study their identities. You study, what makes them, them. I have noticed over the years even friends of mine, change their very being for a guy. I’ve seen girls drop everything they are doing just to get the attention of one young man. Changing themselves to hopefully catch a guy’s attention. Altering their very identity to get this guy to just like them. Being true to yourself and knowing where your identity is truly founded and what defines you, before entering into the world of dating is a very wise decision. Live your life fully for Jesus Christ, before allowing that special someone to access into your heart.
Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
3. Struggles– “Don’t let your struggle become your identity.” We all have struggles. You have struggles, I have struggles. We are Human. But the daily struggles you are facing, don’t ever define you. The sins you are or have been committing, don’t ever define you.
Depression doesn’t define you, worthlessness doesn’t define you, hopelessness isn’t your portion, sickness doesn’t define you, your friends don’t define you, clothes don’t define you, relationships don’t define you, Sin doesn’t define you, darkness doesn’t define you. The many labels people have spoken over you or about you don’t ever define you.
2 Corinthians 5:17 “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come. The old is gone, and the new is here.”
God has taken the sinful human nature we were born into and changed us forever. He took the sinful identity we were carrying and exchanged for an identity full of new life. The old is gone, washed away forever. He took all the tattered rags and made them like a Royal Robe. We are new creations in Jesus Christ. Yes, we still have struggles but, we can live knowing that anyone who is in Christ is made forever new.
4. Legacy– Legacy, this is a massive point. I am going to close with this category. I truly feel that your identity is very much attached with the legacy you receive from your parents, grand-parents, family, etc. These are people that have given you your unique DNA, your family is a part of your identity. Your opinions, your views on certain situations, your personality attributes, your fears, your hopes, and your style of living, of course is your own choice as a person but, the way you were/are being raised will in the long-run affect your identity.
Now it’s so awesome, when you are being raised in a Christian environment, with God-fearing parents…because this is a great attribute to your identity. Having Christ in your life at a young age and running hard after God’s heart is a major key but, many of us forget to count this as a blessing. Not everyone has the honor and privilege of being raised in a Christian Home. The Legacy that is being left and forever imprinted onto you is one that could alter your identity for the good or for the bad. Whether it be Christian beliefs or whether it be attributes of having good work ethics and being kind to others these are just some of the incredible things we can learn from our parents. In my life time, I have met a lot of Non-Christians, who at times are even kinder and nicer than people of the church.
Our parents have been placed into our lives to teach us many different things…to help us build our life-long character, to help us on our quest to find our true identities and what truly defines us.
Thinking towards the future, looking at the way you are being raised whether it be in a Christian home or in a non-Christian home…What legacy are you wanting to leave for your future kids? A choice even now today, can be made that can affect your future families for generations to come. You taking this simple step of faith in Jesus Christ and giving your life to Him, could alter the Identities of your future Grand-children.
There is absolutely no shame whatsoever in not having Jesus Christ as ruler of your Life. If you are reading this and you are living in a non-Christian Home but, want to take that step in Faith…I encourage you to take that step with us. Because remember you are not taking this step alone, we are here with you!
A simple choice is set before each of you. Some of you, it’s a choice to dedicate your Life to Jesus Christ for the very first time and others it’s a choice to re-dedicate your Life to Him. To reignite the passionate fire within you. Each of these choices are able to be made. Please, don’t leave this site, regretting you didn’t take this step in faith. God has HUGE incredible plans for each of you and He looks forward to calling each of you His Daughters.
Now sometimes, having an identity fully founded in Jesus Christ, you will be mocked and made fun of for your faith. We as Sons and Daughters are each called to live set-apart lives. Going against the crowds and trends of today’s culture and society.
In closing today, I would like to read a verse from…
2 Corinthians 1:22 says “You are defined by God and God alone. He identifies you as His very own.”
Now let me ask you that question once again…
“What defines you?”
Until Next Time,