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{Becoming} Being Empowered

Written By: Lanissa Reale


Beginning Your Becoming: Part 3 | Being Empowered’

We’ve reached the finale of Becoming Ministries’ first ever blog series: “Beginning Your Becoming”.  Becoming is the process of life that we choose to invest in as we become the woman that God created us to be.  And Becoming Ministries exists to: Celebrate and empower the teen-20something young woman to get comfortable in her own skin and buy into the process of life that God has in store for her!

I have a woman that I dream of becoming, and I know that you do as well.  But before we can begin this journey of becoming that woman, we have to understand 3 key factors.  If we’re going to embrace this journey of Becoming then we have to be willing to 1) embrace ourselves 2) Buy IN and 3) be committed to being empowered.  And thus that brings us to the 3rd and final factor: being empowered.

As much dreaming and hoping and fantasizing as we can do (and trust me, I’m right there with you), the reality is that our lives will be a process and they WILL include some very messy, unglued, “I NEED HELP” moments.  These moments will look different for each of us, and will change over time- but the beautiful thing about a life submitted and surrendered to God is that in the midst of the high and low moments… you are always safe when you are in Him.  But we have a choice, especially as young women, to begin to live life without a solid ground or to become empowered to take life on with surrender AND authority!  Because both are possible!

So how can we, as teen-20somethings, move from simply taking life as it comes to being empowered?  Check out the 3 steps below!

  1. Realize that it’s not about us.

One of the largest sinkholes that we can find ourselves in is the one called “entitlement”.  You see, we automatically think that being empowered means having power in our own right, being in control and having everything that we think we deserve given to us in a timely fashion of when we believe we need it.  But if we take a step back and gain some perspective- power and control mustered up by man’s own strength only leads to destruction.  Because the truth is, our flesh WILL fail us over and over again- no matter how pretty the circumstances may seem at first, and no matter how much it may LOOK like it makes sense at first.  We are selfish in nature, we want to be number one, we want success, we want to be insta-famous and we want all of the credit.  But the proverb is true that says, “pride always comes before the fall”.  TRUE empowerment starts when we realize that it is not about us.  At the end of the day, if we have given ourselves more glory with our actions and our words than we have to the Lord- then we have done ourselves an injustice.  Realizing that it’s not about you does not mean defeat, but it means surrendering to the Lord and giving authority to HIM to be powerful through you- instead of giving yourself authority to do what you feel is right. Being empowered is about what we allow God to do through us, not what we can do through ourselves.

  1. Staying close.

When the Lord created you in your mother’s womb, He had an intentional and fruitful purpose for your life.  He is our life source,  He is the only one whom we can put all of our trust in and He is the one who knows us from the inside out.  If we want to be an empowered teen-20something we have to realize the importance of staying close to the One who works all things together for the good of those who love Him.  Staying close means having a relationship with the Lord by spending intimate time with Him, being consistent in getting into the Word and living our life fully for Him.  Not because He has all the goods and is our “ticket” to success- but simply because He is God and we love Him.  If you want to be empowered- fall head over heels in love with the Lord and let your life be an overflow of that love relationship.

  1. Getting Connected.

It doesn’t matter if you are an introvert or an extrovert or somewhere in between, we all need people in our corner encouraging and empowering us throughout our journey of life.  If you want to become an empowered young women you HAVE to get connected with a group of people who are spiritually intentional in investing in your life.  And yes, this means giving some of your time to be intentional with others.  THIS is a great place where you, the teen-20something young woman, can get connected with ease.  But truly being connected doesn’t just mean receiving,  it also means giving back.  Here at Becoming Ministries you have the opportunity to not only get free content through email subscription, blog posts and social media posts- but to get connected with other girls who are going through the same stage of life as you!  How can you get connected to that community?  By commenting on the blog posts and conversing with each other!  Everyone wants a cheerleader, and we want to be yours!  Get started below AND STICK AROUND here at Becoming Ministries!

Your turn: Have you ever tried to take control of our life only to realize that you failed epically?  What do you think about being empowered by surrendering your life to God?  Comment below!

Until Next Time,
~Lanissa Reale (


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